Here’s my experience with dating for the last few years: I meet a guy. He pursues me for a few phone calls. Then I take it upon myself initiate the first phone call/text message/Facebook chat or whatever. Suddenly, the responsibility to contact him consistently becomes mine. The woman. If I don’t call/text/write he never will. Until of course I get that text two weeks later asking why I didn’t call.
Huh? Since when did that become my responsibility?
Case in point: I’ll call this guy Team Jacob because he looked like Taylor Lautner. Team Jacob called me a few times. We went on two really great dates. Then I tried to text message him because I figured it was my turn. Got one word answers. So I waited for him to text me. I did receive a text….two weeks later, asking why I hadn’t “hit him up.”
And the guy was in genuine shock as to how I had gotten tired of waiting around for him and had moved on.
Men, this idea that women are supposed to chase you has just got to stop! Yes, the equalization of the sexes has come a long way, but not so far as to reverse the roles completely! Most women want a MAN, the James Bond type that hones you in on his radar and goes in for the kill. A hunter who pursues his prey in a cunning and sexy way, engaging in a tireless chase until he earns his prize. We don’t want you to let us plan the whole date from first call to the reservation and just have you show up to pay. Goddammit, grab hold of us, slap us over your shoulder and drag us away! Growl, roar!!!!
Ok, that’s maybe taking it too far.
But in all seriousness, women are not going to turn into masculine creatures so men shouldn’t adopt all the qualities of feminine ones. Just because women are more take-charge in the work place doesn’t mean men can lose that take-charge charm in relationships we love about them. I know women also carry responsbilities in making a relationship emerge and/or move forward, but I can't even get to the part where we come in if I'm too busy doing all the work getting the thing off the ground.
So please, for the sake of MANkind, redeem your man points and nut up! Call that girl!
And excuse my feminine rant. It’s a girl thing.
Nut up huh? Hmm LMAO
ReplyDeleteSeriously though, it's the opposite here. Man pursues, woman runs away because she has past relationship mental health issues/commitment issues/whatever. It's fun times.
You like that lol?
ReplyDeleteAgreed. I'll be the first to admit I do that. But it's only because the very second I show any interest whatsoever they kick back and wait for me to do all the work. Which causes me mental anguish I care not to repeat in the future and thus my little mind invents all sorts of great stories that cause me to turn tail and run from the next guy. And the next. Sigh, you're right, fun times!
I kind of think this vicious cycle between the two genders is the Mother Earth's clever way to stop the human race from breeding. Thoughts?
It's not really a vicious cycle between the two genders as much as it's a vicious cycle between two types of both genders. Let the wafflers of both sides have each other so I can find the real go-getters!
ReplyDeleteOh, and for an example that I completely forgot to put up, most women here are only after getting married, regardless of being in love or not, so it kinda sucks!
ReplyDeleteThe sad truth is that if you show interest as a man in today's time, it deflates your stock. You have to pretend like you are tolerating the girl until you actually sleep with her, and then you can finally act interested without scaring her off.
ReplyDeleteI guess it's the sad paradox of today's times where sex brings out honesty.